As featured in, adult sex experts answered some of the most pressing adult sex questions we will be asking ourselves in 2024 about life, love, luxurious adult sex, and as always, standards for raising it even higher.
What is the reason you are here now as an adult sex expert?
My experience is more practical than anything else. Of course, I dated mostly. I met some of the most influential people in my life on this website and made contacts that stay with me to this day. It wasn’t just a romantic connection, but a true heartfelt connection that brought me closer to my life goals and gave me valuable advice and guidance.
After experiencing it myself, I hope others do the same. An adult sex website that allows for truly meaningful connections, not just superficial ones I was able to support that and was happy to work on it.
Another aspect that I consider very formative was my work in Tokyo. I was interested in geisha culture and Japanese nightlife and worked as a modern geisha while learning Japanese. This brought me into contact with some of the most successful and elite people in Japan, and I began to question my previous standards for my life and the people I wanted in it. Seeing what they had and how hard they worked for it made me realize that I needed to raise the standards of the people I gave access to and time.
This philosophy has carried over into my sex life as an adult and is now at the core of the advice I give to others.
They often talk about “raising your standards” – why is this important in adult sex?
You can’t be satisfied with something that takes you back to your old ways. In adult sex, the people you’re with impact your life, your success, and your personal growth. You have to be selective with who you spend your time with.
To do this, you have to raise your standards. Perhaps even higher than you were before, or even higher than you feel you need. It’s easy to have high standards, but not easy to maintain them. When you have adult sex, you have to have your vision for your life in mind and ask yourself if you feel like your relationship is on the path to getting there. It’s uplifting.
What do you think about adult sex fatigue and what would you suggest as a cure?
Adult sex fatigue is a problem today because we live in a never-ending cycle where we’re inundated with apps and ads and online matches go nowhere. We scroll, we swipe, we match, but eventually, we get ghosted, bread crumbed, and back again (just to name a few popular trends in adult sex). Adult sex feels low risk because we’ve engineered it that way, accepting partners and platforms that make it nearly disposable.